What exactly is a "Boss Witch"?
How spending most of my life trying to "boss it" like a man, led me to burn it all to the ground ground and start again, this time 'Claiming it like a Woman'
It all began when I stopped taking the contraceptive pill….
Like far too many women, when I was just 16 I had the colossally under researched and horrifically under disclosed contraceptive pill chucked down my adolescent throat. I didn’t think much of it at the time, to be perfectly honest I would have taken pretty much anything to stop the mind numbing cramps and back breaking pain of my periods.
And so I chugged these little “miracle” pills down daily - pretty much consistently, without so much as a second thought, until I was 35.
Cut to almost 20 years later, around two months after my 35th birthday I reached over to take my little nightly pill like clockwork (well not like clockwork clockwork - like Adhd clockwork - mostly around the same time, but sometimes not and sometimes not at all! ) and as I reached for the packet I heard a distinct and loud voice, as though a sightly aggressive older sister had entered the room after finding out you borrowed her favourite Nirvana T-shirt without asking, shout “NO!”
Now, at this time, I had zero connection to my body, mind or spirit. The idea of intuition, embodiment and consciousness was a load of “woo woo” bullshit that Sunbeam the hippie down the road would spout after too many cans of red stripe and several joints. So this very loud and very clear “NO!” scared the absolute crap out of me!
I had no idea what the fuck was going on, or what had just happened, I looked at this tiny little pill in my hand and swallowed it down as always, but something was different this time. Something in this moment had changed in me forever. The very next day I began researching “coming off the contraceptive pill” and just two 2 weeks later I stopped taking it forever.
Thus, so was the beginning of the “Boss Witch” (not that I knew it at the time!)….a journey of embodiment, intuition, Dominance, cyclical living, of the reclamation of pleasure and sensuality, of learning EVERYTHING WE WERE TAUGHT TO FORGET and claiming back power and presence as a woman.
For years I was taught, told and subsequently believed that the only way for me “to win” at life was to “play it like man”. In my corporate job I was “too emotional” and “I cared too much” (what a RIDICULOUS statement btw). I just needed to PUSH more, TRY harder, CONTROL my emotions, MASK my differences and mould myself in every way possible to fit a system built for male bodies, whilst all the while burying and subconsciously denying myself access to the superpowers inside of me. In my natural rhythms and cycles, in my depth of emotional intelligence, in my scared rage, in my bodily wisdom and intuition and my creative life force.
This went on for over 30 years… and once I decided to say “fuck this”, to stick my middle finger up to all this, to return back to myself and reclaim the knowledge, wisdom and power that was already there inside me. I NEVER WANTED TO MOULD MYSELF TO FIT ANYONES ELSES AGENDA AGAIN.
So now I want ALL women to access this part of themselves that we have been taught to forget, to regain power not for control but for change, for true deep rooted change that starts from within each and every one of us.
THIS IS THE BOSS WITCH MOVEMENT
BOSS WITCH IS NOT JUST A FAD OR A BUZZ-WORD TITLE. IT IS A REVOLUTION. A MOVEMENT ROOTED IN A COLLECTIVE RETURN TO THE KNOWLEDGE WE WERE TAUGHT TO FORGET.
A REVOLT AGAINST PATRIARCHAL CONSTRAINTS, A ‘FUCK YOU’ TO THE STAYING SMALL, A DEVOURING MESSY BITE AT LIFE AND ALL IT HAS TO OFFER.
ABOVE ALL, AN INVITATION TO BUILD SOMETHING REAL AND BRING ABOUT CHANGE FROM WITHIN: REGENERATIVE WEALTH, GENUINE COMMUNITY, ACTIVISM AND A WORLD THAT HONOURS ALL BODIES, ALL CYCLES, AND ALL WOMEN.
This is not a moment it’s a movement.
What is the Boss Witch community? What hope does it represent?
It represents community, coven, together in union, in power.
Not alone, never alone. Alongside fellow women who are curious, who are willing, who are ready.
The kind of togetherness that women were once burnt for seeking.
THROUGH 121 AND GROUP COACHING AND WOMENS RETREATS ACROSS THE WORLD.
What will be explored
A plethora of pleasure, embodiment, Dominance, true expression and returning to the knowledge we already hold deep down.
Dominance and all I learned from my time as a Dominatrix.
Modern “no bullshit” magic and witchcraft.
Ritual and sensuality woven into daily life.
Reclamation of pleasure, food and our bodies
The power of style & luxurious living as self-expression.
Our natural rhythms & cyclical living
The ancient, irreplaceable knowledge that lives in our bodies and our emotions.
** all words shared in this article are opinions and self experience, everybody’s journey with medication and contraceptives is different and valid. Always do your own research and consult professional advice where needed
